Providing Support for Parents at All Stages: From Expecting to Empty Nesters
Would you like support on your parenting journey? Parenting is one of the hardest jobs we do and no one gives us a manual on how to raise our children into responsible, considerate, and resilient human beings. Parenting can bring us joys we never imagined and also feelings of overwhelm and exhaustion.
I love to support parents no matter what stage you are in! I have worked with parents for over 20 years. I have my own personal experience as a parent as well. Our sessions are guided by what you are wanting support in and the values you have and want for your family. Our work is guided by my training in attachment and brain science to help you build a secure attachment relationship with your child no matter their age.
What is a Secure Attachment Relationship?
A securely attached relationship enables a child to feel at home in the world and to interact with others as an authentic individual who knows who they are. The child interacts with new opportunities and challenges from a position of openness, curiosity, and receptiveness rather than rigidity, fear, and reactivity.
Their whole brain is more integrated—which means they can employ the more sophisticated functions of their brain even when confronted with difficult situations and respond to their world from a position of security, demonstrating more emotional balance, more resilience, more insight, and more empathy.
As a result, the child will be not only happier but also much more socially adept, which means they’ll be better able to get along with others, collaboratively solve problems, consider consequences, think about other people’s feelings, and on and on. In short, a securely attached child is not only happier and more content but also much easier to be with and to parent. When kids feel safe, seen, and soothed, they will develop a secure attachment to their caregivers.
Feeling safe, seen, and soothed leads to security, which is based on predictability. Again, it’s not about perfection. No one can parent without making mistakes. Rather, it’s about letting your kids know that they can count on you, time and again, to show up. Their security will come when they believe that you’ll do all you can to keep them safe, that you’ll work hard to help them feel seen when they come to you, and that when things don’t go their way, you’ll be there to soothe them.
As a result, kids can approach life from an assumption that they are safe, that love and relationships will be consistent and present in their lives, and that they can handle life’s inevitable difficult moments, leaving them feeling secure and at home in the world.
Support for Parenting Challenges
It can be difficult to be a parent, especially when it comes to facing challenges and contentious issues such as homework, screen time, food choices, and bedtime. And when your child’s behavior or emotional reactions seem particularly intense, parents can feel at a total loss. I am here to listen and understand listening to understand what you’re facing, then work with you to approach your child and the situation more effectively. I will give you strategies that can help you not only survive difficult moments with your kids, but actually use those very moments to help your children thrive.
Some of the ways I can support you are:
- Steps for identifying your own discipline philosophy—and mastering the best methods to effectively discipline and communicate the lessons you want to impart
- Ways to calmly connect and communicate love for a child—no matter how extreme the behavior—while still setting clear and consistent limits
- Tips for navigating your children through emotional storms
- Facts on child brain development—and what kind of discipline or expectations are most appropriate and constructive at all ages and stages
- Suggestions for how co-parents can work together in a unified way when they experience conflict over childrearing decisions and philosophy
- Keys to understanding what’s typical for your child’s age and stage, to better determine together whether your child might need some additional support
I’ll work to help you peacefully resolve conflicts, inspire happiness, understand your child’s growing brain and developing mind, and strengthen resilience for everyone in the family. It can be tremendously valuable to sit with an expert and ask your questions, learn more effective strategies, and figure out how to be more intentional about building your relationship with your child.
Carlene can help you peacefully resolve conflicts, inspire happiness, understand your child’s growing brain and developing mind, and strengthen resilience for everyone in the family.
“If a child is to keep his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in.” – Rachel Carson